美国妈妈

儿子去美国留学，毕业后定居美国。还给我找了个洋媳妇苏珊。如今，小孙子托比已经3岁了。今年夏天，儿子为我申请了探亲签证。在美国待了三个月，洋媳妇苏珊教育孩子的方法，令我这个中国婆婆大开眼界。

不吃饭就饿着

每天早上，托比醒来后，苏珊把早餐往餐桌上一放，就自顾自地忙去了。托比会自己爬上凳子，喝牛奶，吃面包片。吃饱后，他回自己的房间，在衣柜里找衣服、鞋子，再自己穿上。毕竟托比只有3岁，还搞不清楚子的正反面，分不清鞋子的左右脚。有一次托比又把裤子穿反了，我赶紧上前想帮他换，却被苏珊制止了。她说，如果他觉得不舒服，会自己脱下来，重新穿好；如果他没觉得有什么不舒服，那就随他的便。那一整天，托比反穿着裤子跑来跑去，苏姗像没看见一样。

又一次，托比出去和邻居家的小朋友玩，没多大会就气喘吁吁地跑回家，对苏珊说：“妈妈，露西说我的裤子穿反了，真的吗？”露西是邻居家的小姑娘，今年5岁。苏姗笑着说：“是的，你要不要换回来？”托比点点头，自己脱下裤子，仔细看了看，重新穿上了。从那以后，托比再也没穿反过裤子。

我不禁想起，我的外孙女五六岁时不会用筷子，上小学时不会系鞋带。如今在上寄宿制初中的她，每个周末都要带回家一大堆脏衣服呢。

一天中午，托比闹情绪，不肯吃饭。苏珊说了他几句，愤怒地小托比一把将盘子推到了地上，盘子里的食物洒了一地。苏姗看着托比，认真地说：“看来你确实不想吃饭！记住，从现在到明天早上，你什么都不能吃。”托比点点头，坚定地回答：“Yes!”我在心里暗笑，这母子俩，还都挺倔！

下午，苏珊和我商量，晚上由我做中国菜。我心领神会，托比告别爱吃中国菜，一定是苏珊觉得托比中午没好好吃饭，想让他晚上多吃点儿。

那天晚上我施展厨艺，做了托比最爱吃的糖醋里脊、油闷大虾，还用意大利面做了中国式的凉面。托比最喜欢吃那种凉面，小小的人可以吃满满一大盘。

开始吃晚饭了，托比欢天喜地地爬上凳子。苏珊却走过来，拿走了他的盘子和刀叉，说：“我们已经约好了，今天你不能吃饭，你自己也答应了的。”托比看着面容严肃的妈妈，“哇”地一声在哭起来，边哭边说：“妈妈，我饿，我要吃饭。”“不行，说过的话要算数。”苏珊毫不心软。

我心疼了，想替托比求情，说点好话，却见儿子对我使眼色。想起我刚到美国时，儿子就跟我说，在美国，父母教育孩子时，别人千万不要插手，即使是长辈也不例外。无奈，我只好保持沉默。

那顿饭，从始至终，可怜的小托比一直坐在玩具车里，眼巴巴地看着我们三个大人狼吞虎咽。我这才明白苏珊让我做中餐的真正用意。我相信，下一次，托比想发脾气扔饭碗时，一定会想起自己饿着肚子看爸爸妈妈和奶奶享用美食的经历。饿着肚子的滋味不好受，况且还是面对自己最喜爱的食物。

临睡前，我和苏珊一起去向托比道晚安。托比小心翼翼地问：“妈妈，我很饿，现在我能吃中国面吗？”苏珊微笑着摇摇头，坚决地说：“不！”托比叹了口气，又问：“那等我睡完觉睁开眼睛时，可以吃吗？”“当然可以。”苏珊温柔地回答。托比甜甜地笑了。

大部分情况下，托比吃饭都很积极，他不想因为“罢吃”而错过食物，再受饿肚子的苦。每当看到托比埋头大口大口地吃饭，嘴上脸上粘的都是食物时，我就想起外孙女。她像托比这么大时，为了哄她吃饭，几个大人端着饭碗跟在她屁股后面跑，她还不买账，还要谈条件：吃完这碗买一个玩具，再吃一碗买一个玩具……

以其人之道，还治其人这身

有一天，我们带托比去公园玩。很快，托比就和两个女孩儿玩起了厨房游戏。塑料小锅、小铲子、小盘子、小碗摆了一地。忽然，淘气的托比拿起小锅，使劲在一个女孩儿头上敲了一下，女孩儿愣了一下，放声大哭。另一个女孩儿年纪更小一些，见些情形，也被吓得大哭起来。大概托比没想到会有这么严重的后果，站在一旁，愣住了。

苏珊走上前，开清了事情的来龙去脉后，她一声不吭，拿起小锅，使劲敲到托比的头上，托比没防备，一下子跌坐在草地上，哇哇大哭起来。苏珊问托比：“疼吗？下次还这样吗？”托比一边哭，一边拼命摇头。我相信他以后再也不会这么做了。

托比的舅舅送了他一辆浅蓝色的小自行车，托比非常喜欢，当成宝贝，不许别人碰。邻居小姑娘露西是托比的好朋友，央求托比好几次，要骑他的小车，托比都没答应。

一次，几个孩子一起玩时，露西趁托比不注意，偷偷骑上小车，扬长而去。托比发现后，气愤地跑来向苏珊告状。苏珊正和几个孩子的母亲一起聊天喝咖啡，便微笑着说：“你们的事情自己解决，妈妈可管不了。”托比无奈地走了。

过了一小会儿，露西骑着小车回来了。托比看到露西，一把将她推倒在地，抢过了小车。露西坐在地上大哭起来。苏珊抱起露西，安抚了她一会儿。很快，露西就和别的小朋友兴高采烈地玩了起来。

托比自己骑了会车，觉得有些无聊，看到那几个孩子玩得那么高兴，他想加入，又觉得有些不好意思。他蹭到苏珊身边，嘟囔道：“妈妈，我想跟露西他们一起玩。”苏珊不动声色地说：“那你自己去找他们啦！”“妈妈，你陪我一起去。”托比恳求道。“那可不行，刚才是你把露西弄哭的，现在你又想和大家玩，就得自己去解决问题。”

托比骑着小车慢慢靠近露西，快到她身边时，又掉头回来。来回好几次，不知道从什么时候开始，托比和露西又笑逐颜开，闹成了一团。

管教孩子是父母的事

苏珊的父母住在加利福尼亚州，听说我来了，两人开车来探望我们。家里来了客人，托比很兴奋，跑上跑下地乱窜。他把玩沙子用的小桶装满了水，提着小桶在屋里四处转悠。苏珊警告了她好几次，不要把水洒到地板上，托比置若罔闻。最后，托比还是把水桶弄倒了，水洒了一地。兴奋的小托比不觉得自己做错了事，还得意地光着脚丫踩水玩，把裤子全弄湿了。我连忙找出拖把准备拖地。苏珊从我手中抢过拖把交给托比，对他说：“把地拖干，把湿衣服脱下来，自己洗干净。”托比不愿意，又哭又闹。苏珊二话不说，直接把他拉到贮藏室，关了禁闭。听到托比在里面发出惊天动地的哭喊，我心疼坏了，想进去把他抱出来。托比的外婆却拦住我，说：“这是苏珊的事。”

过了一会儿，托比不哭了，他在贮藏室里大声喊：“妈妈，我错了。”苏珊站在门外，问：“那你知道该怎么做了吗？”“我知道。”苏珊打开门，托比从贮藏室走出来，脸上还挂着两行泪珠。他拿起有他两个高的拖把吃力地把地上的水拖干净。然后，他脱下裤子，拎在手上，光着屁股走进洗手间，稀里哗啦地洗起衣服来。

托比的外公外婆看着表情惊异的我，意味深长地笑了。这件事让我感触颇深。在很多中国家庭，父母管教孩子时，常常会引起“世界大战”，往往是外婆外公护，爷爷奶奶拦，夫妻吵架，鸡飞狗跳。

后来，我和托比的外公外婆聊天时，提到这件事，托比的外公说了一段话，让我印象深刻。他说，孩子是父母的孩子，首先要尊重父母对孩子的教育方式。孩子虽然小，却是天生的外交家，当他看到家庭成员之间出现分歧时，他会很聪明地钻空子。这不仅对改善他的行为毫无益处，反而会导致问题越来越严重，甚至带来更多别的问题。而且，家庭成员之间发生冲突，不和谐的家庭氛围会带给孩子更多的不安全感，对孩子的心理发展产生不利影响。所以，无论是父辈与祖辈在教育孩子的问题上发生分歧，还是夫妻两人的教育观念有差异，都不能在孩子面前发生冲突。

托比的外公外婆在家里住了一周，准备回加利福尼亚了。临走前两天，托比的外公郑重地问女儿：“托比想要一辆玩具挖掘机，我可以买给他吗？”苏珊想了想，说：“你们这次来，已经送给他一双旱冰鞋作为礼物了，到圣诞节时，再买玩具挖掘机当礼物送给他吧！”

我不知道托比的外公是怎么告诉小家伙的，后来我带托比去超市，他指着玩具挖掘机说：“外公说，圣诞节时，给我买这个当礼物。”语气里满是欣喜和期待。

虽然苏珊对托比如此严格，托比去却对妈妈爱得不得了。他在外面玩时，会采集一些好看的小花或者他认为漂亮的叶子，郑重其事地送给妈妈；别人送给他礼物，他会叫妈妈和他一起拆开；有什么好吃的，也总要留一半给妈妈。

想到很多中国孩子对父母的漠视与冷淡，我不得不佩服我的洋媳妇。在我看来，在教育孩子的问题上，美国妈妈有很多值得中国妈妈学习的地方

DRINK WATER ON EMPTY STOMACH

It is popular in Japan today to drink water immediately after waking up every morning. Furthermore, scientific tests have proven its value. We publish below a description of use of water for our readers. For old and serious diseases as well as modern illnesses the water treatment had been found successful by a Japanese medical society as a 100% cure for the following diseases:
Headache, body ache, heart system, arthritis, fast heart beat, epilepsy, excess fatness, bronchitis asthma, TB, meningitis, kidney and urine diseases, vomiting, gastritis, diarrhea, piles, diabetes, constipation, all eye diseases, womb, cancer and menstrual disorders, ear nose and throat diseases.

METHOD OF TREATMENT
1. As you wake up in the morning before brushing teeth, drink 4 x 160ml glasses of water
2. Brush and clean the mouth but do not eat or drink anything for 45 minute
3. After 45 minutes you may eat and drink as normal.
4. After 15 minutes of breakfast, lunch and dinner do not eat or drink anything for 2 hours
5. Those who are old or sick and are unable to drink 4 glasses of water at the beginning may commence by taking little water and gradually increase it to 4 glasses per day.
6. The above method of treatment will cure diseases of the sick and others can enjoy a healthy life.

The following list gives the number of days of treatment required to cure/control/reduce main diseases:
1. High Blood Pressure (30 days)
2. Gastric (10 days)
3. Diabetes (30 days)
4. Constipation (10 days)
5. Cancer (180 days)
6. TB (90 days)
7. Arthritis patients should follow the above treatment only for 3 days in the 1st week, and from 2nd week onwards – daily.

This treatment method has no side effects, however at the commencement of treatment you may have to urinate a few times.
It is better if we continue this and make this procedure as a routine work in our life. Drink Water and Stay healthy and Active.

This makes sense ... The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals ...not cold water. Maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating!!! Nothing to lose, everything to gain...
For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you.
It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion.

Once this "sludge" reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine.
Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.


A serious note about heart attacks:
· Women should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting,
· Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.
· You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack.
· Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms.
· 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up.
· Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know, the better chance we could survive...


A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this mail sends it to everyone they know, you can be sure that we'll save at least one life.

Sore throat? An Amazing Sore Throat Remedy

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This simple home remedy has worked 100% of the time for anyone that has tried it. Instead of suffering with a sore throat for a week or more, you can drive it away immediately, sometimes in less than a day. However, this remedy is not medical advice; it is a shared experience that really works! This site is not for profit; it's aim is simply to help people cure their sore throats.

The most common sore throat remedies for sore throat are usually over-the-counter sprays, lozenges and pastilles that are ineffective and smelly. The most common doctor-prescribed remedies are antibiotics, which take time to obtain, cost money and can have many negative side effects.

Most often, people waste time waiting while trying to figure out whether or not they really have a sore throat. By the time they realize they do have a sore throat, it's usually to the point that they are already suffering from serious sore throat pain, can barely speak, swallow or even eat.

This remedy is salt, and not just about gargling saltwater, it is actually about using common table salt as it is.

What you have to do is: tilt your head backwards and shake a little bit of salt straight into the back of your throat. Make sure you shake it straight into your throat, onto the base of your tongue and not over the middle or the tip your tongue (this way you will not suffer from any unpleasant taste). After that, do not swallow your saliva, just let the salt dissolve right there on the back of your throat, letting the salt stay there for as long as you possibly can. If you're using a salt shaker, shake 2 to 6 times depending how bad your sore throat is. If you're using a fast food style paper saltshaker, you should shake about 1/4 of the packet directly into your throat.

Also highly suggested, is to shake an even larger amount of salt into your throat right before you go to sleep for the night. During your sleep, without food or drink, bacteria thrive without any interruption to incubation and growth. Therefore, using salt while you are asleep can be extremely effective. Keep a salt shaker near your bed. If you wake up in the middle of the night feeling sore, you can shake some more salt into your throat.

Salt is a very old remedy that kills bacteria. In the old days they traditionally used salt to preserve meat and fish. Why? Because salt attracts water and attacks the bacteria cell walls, causing the bacteria to dehydrate and self-destruct in the process.

If your sore throat is really severe you can use salt as often as every 30 minutes. Use it as soon as you feel the first symptoms of a sore throat and the earlier you use it, the faster you’ll get rid of that sore throat.

Salt is available nearly everywhere. You can stop in to any fast food place on any street and grab some. Don’t wait around trying to figure out whether or not your sore throat is serious. Instead you can use this quick sore throat cure. As soon as you feel the first signs of a sore throat, use the salt immediately. Gargling salt water is not nearly as effective since the concentration of salt is not high enough to take care of the problem. Also, gargling water requires a cup of water and the time to dissolve the salt in it, yet more inconvenience that makes you wait for relief.

Not all sore throats are the result of a bacteria infection. Sometimes the cause is a virus, commonly known as influenza virus. Many times your sore throat starts as a viral infection which develops into a bacterial infection. Salt is intended to fight only the bacteria, not the virus. Therefore salt might not be totally effective if you are suffering from a viral throat infection. Nevertheless, you really have nothing to lose by using salt. According to experience, salt can be extremely effective in most all cases, depending on the cause of your sore throat.

A sore throat is also often the first stage of a common cold, also known as the Flu. First to arrive is the sore throat, followed by nasal congestion and coughing. If you can take care of it fast, you won't wear down your immune system fighting the sore throat and your immune system has more energy to fight the other cold symptoms. Therefore, using salt could also shorten the total duration of suffering from the common cold.

Everybody suffers from a sore throat every year. If you find this advice to be useful - feel free to share it with your friends - and send them a link to this site.

一碗白飯

二十年前某日黃昏有名看似大學生的男孩徘徊在台北街頭的一家自助餐店前。等到吃飯的客人大都離開了，他才面帶羞赧地走進店裡。 「請給我一碗白飯。謝謝！」男孩低著頭說。

店內剛創業的年輕老闆夫妻見他沒選菜一陣納悶，卻也沒多問，立刻就盛了滿滿一碗的白飯遞給他。男孩付錢時不好意思的說了句：「我可以在飯上淋點菜湯嗎？」

老闆娘笑著答：「沒關係！你儘管用，不要錢！」

男孩吃飯吃到一半想到淋菜湯不必錢，又多叫了一碗。「一碗不夠是嗎？我這次給你盛多一點！」老闆很熱絡地回應。

「不是的。我要拿回去裝在便當盒裡明天帶到學校當午餐！」

老闆聽了心想男孩可能來自南部鄉下經濟環境不好的家庭，為了讀書獨自一人北上求學，甚至可能半工半讀，處境的困難可想而知。於是悄悄在餐盒的底先放入店裡招牌的肉燥一大匙，還加了一粒魯蛋，最後才將白飯滿滿覆蓋上去。乍看之下以為就只是白飯而已。老闆娘見狀明白老闆想幫助那男孩，但卻搞不懂為什麼不將肉燥大大方方地加在飯上，卻要藏在飯底？老闆貼著老闆娘的耳說：「男孩若是一眼就見到白飯加料，說不定會認為我們是在施捨他。這不等於直接傷害了他的自尊嗎？這樣他下次一定不好意思再來。如果轉到別家一直只是吃白飯，怎麼有體力讀書呢？」

「你真是好人。幫了人還替對方保留面子！」

「我不好，妳會願意嫁給我嗎？」年輕的老闆夫妻浸淫在助人的快樂裡。

「謝謝。我吃飽了。再見！」男孩起身離開。當男孩拿到沈甸甸的餐盒時不禁回頭望了老闆夫妻一眼。

「要加油喔！明天見！」老闆向男孩揮手致意，話語中透露著請男孩明天再來店裡用餐。男孩眼中泛起淚光，卻也沒讓老闆夫妻看見。從此男孩除了連續假日以外，幾乎每天黃昏都來，同樣在店裡吃一碗白飯，再外帶一碗走。當然，帶走的那一碗白飯底下每天都藏著不一樣的秘密。直到男孩畢業。

往後的二十年裡，這家自助餐店也不曾出現過男孩的身影了。某天將近五十歲的自助餐店老闆夫妻，接到市政府強制拆除違章建築店面的通告。面對中年失業，平日儲蓄又都給了兒子在國外攻讀學位，想到生活無依經濟陷入困境不禁在店裡抱頭痛哭了起來。

就在這時一位身穿名牌西裝像是大公司經理級的人物突然來訪。「你們好，我是某大企業的副總經理。我們總經理命我前來，希望能請你們在我們即將要啟用的辦公大樓裡開自助餐廳。一切的設備與食材均由公司出資準備。你們僅須帶領廚師負責菜餚的烹煮。至於盈利的部份，你們和公司各佔一半！」

「你們公司的總經理是誰？為什麼要對我們這麼好？我們不記得認識這麼高貴的人物！」老闆夫妻一臉疑惑。

「你們夫妻是我們總經理的大恩人兼好朋友，總經理尤其喜歡吃你們店裡的魯蛋和肉燥。我就只知道這麼多。其他的等你們見了面再談吧！」

終於那每次用餐只叫一碗白飯的男孩再度現身了。經過二十年艱辛的創業，男孩成功的建立了自己的事業王國 ，眼前這一切全都得感謝自助餐老闆夫妻的鼓勵與暗助。否則他當初根本無法順利完成學業。話過往事，老闆夫妻打算告辭，總經理起身對他們深深一鞠躬並恭敬地說：「加油喔！公司以後還須要靠你們幫忙。明天見！」
歡喜「施」，感恩「受」，人間處處有溫情。

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喜歡一個人是一種感覺。
不喜歡一個人卻是事實。
事實容易解釋，感覺卻難以言喻。
記住該記住的，忘記該忘記的。
改變能改變的，接受不能改變的。
失敗者找理由，成功者找方法。

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如果您收到別人分享給您的好文章，不要吝嗇，您也可以繼續分享給好友。請別忘記我這一份喔!
當我們用心對人時，有心人將以熱情回報您。希望我們都是用心的人，也是有心的人。

患了中風 如何保住老命!

保住老命I【請努力轉寄！】
患了中風，腦部的微血管，會慢慢的破裂，
遇到這種情形，千萬別慌，患者無論在什麼地方 …
《不管是浴室、臥房或客廳。》，
千萬不可搬動他。
因為，如果移動，會加速微血管的破裂。
所以要先原地把患者扶起坐穩以防止再摔倒，
這時才開始【放血】。
家中如有專為注射用的針，當然最好，
如果沒有，就拿縫衣用的銅針，
或是大頭針，用火燒一下消毒！
就在患者的十個手指頭尖兒
《沒有固定穴道，大約距離手指甲一分之處。》 刺上去，
要刺出血來【萬一血不出來，可用手擠。】，
等十個手指頭都流出血來 《每指一滴》，
大約幾分鐘之後，患者就會自然清醒！
如果嘴也歪了，就拉他的耳朵，把耳朵拉紅，
在兩耳的耳垂兒的部位，各刺兩針，也各流兩滴血，
幾分鐘以後，嘴就恢復原狀了。
等患者一切恢復正常感覺沒有異狀時再送醫，
就一定可以轉危為安，否則，若是急著抬上救護車送醫，
經一路的顛跛震動恐怕還沒到醫院，他腦部微血管，
差不多已經都破裂了。
萬一能夠吉人天相，保全老命，
能像孫院長，容得勉強行動，那得要靠祖上的庇蔭了。
放血救命法，是住在新竹的中醫師夏伯挺先生說的。
且是經自己親身實驗，敢說百分之百有效。
大概是民國六十八年我在台中逢甲學院任教，
有天上午，我正在上課，一位老師跑到我的教室上氣不接下氣的說：
『劉老師快來，主任中風了！』。
我立刻跑到三樓，看到陳幅添主任，
氣色不正，語意模糊，嘴也歪了，很明顯的是中風了。
立即請工讀生到校門外的西藥房，買來一支注射用的針頭，
就在陳主任十個手指頭上直刺。
等十個手指尖兒都見血了 《豆粒似的一滴》。
大約幾分鐘以後，陳主任的氣色就變過來了，
兩眼也有神了，只有嘴還歪著，我就拉搓他的耳朵，
使之充血，等把耳朵拉紅，就在左右耳垂之處，
各刺兩針，待兩耳垂都流出兩滴血來，奇蹟就出現了！
大約不到三五分鐘，他的嘴形，恢復正常了，說話也清清楚楚了。
讓他靜坐一陣子，喝了一杯熱茶，才扶他下樓，
開車送到惠華醫院，打一罐點滴，休息了一夜，
第二天；就出院回學校上課了。
一切照常工作，毫無後遺症。
反觀一般腦中風患者，都是送醫院治療時，
經過一路震盪血管急速破裂，以致多數患者一病不起，
所以腦中風，在死因排行榜上高居第二位，
其最幸運者，也僅能保住老命，而落得終身殘廢。
這是一個多麼可怕的病症。
如果大家都能記住這 《放血救命》的方法，
立刻施救，在短短時間它能起死回生，
而且保證百分之百的正常。
這個急救法，希望大家告訴大家。
那腦中風，在死因排行榜上，就可以除名了。

Free Public DNS Servers

Below is the list of Free Public DNS Servers:

1. Google

8.8.8.8
8.8.4.4
2. ScrubIt

Public dns server address:

67.138.54.100
207.225.209.66
3. dnsadvantage

Dnsadvantage free dns server list:

156.154.70.1
156.154.71.1
4. OpenDNS

OpenDNS free dns server list:

208.67.222.222
208.67.220.220
5. vnsc-pri.sys.gtei.net

Public Name server IP address:

4.2.2.1
4.2.2.2
4.2.2.3
4.2.2.4
4.2.2.5
4.2.2.6

Work Life Balance

30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)
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" Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass.
If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it."

WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND LEAVE ON TIME. GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST.